How do you define yourself? We all do in some fashion albeit smart, funny, intelligent, helpful, or pretty. Out of all of the attributes we have to select as women, the most important tends to be “pretty.” Multi-million dollar industries are built upon our drive to be pretty from cosmetics to jewelry to spa trips that promise to refresh and rejuvenate. Scores of magazines, books, articles, and the media in general all provide ‘help’ for us to be pretty. And the pretty they are defining is based purely upon the outer shell. Now don’t get me wrong, there are indeed tons of self-help articles and books about self-worth which really are about finding the pretty on the inside, yes? But isn’t it true that if you don’t value your own appearance, looks, that is – oftentimes a causal effect is lower self-esteem? So really then the self-worth books selling by the droves are also geared toward being “pretty.” And how, you might ask, is pretty defined?
Popular culture defines it for us. Think about the advertisements you see and the bombardment of messages you receive implicitly as a result. Youthful, thin, toned, buxom, tanned, etc., etc., etc. – I could go on, but I don’t have too as you already know what “pretty” is supposed to be. So what happens to us who are not model perfect? What happens to those who have less than perfect teeth? What about those who choose to wear glasses? What about women who are not reed thin? Or men with six pack abs and well-defined chests? And those of us who have lopsided smiles, dented chins, and crooked noses? Well guess what. We are the majority and have a voice in how we, that is society, define pretty.
How about we say pretty is those who strive to deliver their personal best rather than comparing themselves to others and coming up short. What if we decide that pretty is the resiliency to get back up over and over regardless of challenges life throws our way. We can also say pretty is wisdom to know our self-worth is more valuable than any relationship that does not support and celebrate our personal magnificence. And here’s another definition of pretty. It is the courage to stand up in the face of overwhelming unpopularity and do the right thing regardless of others’ opinions. Sum be told – pretty is, then, inherently intrinsic.
Don’t let anyone, including yourself; tell you that you aren’t “pretty.” Let’s reconcile our pretty to the beautiful inner you and let’s look at our outer shell as simply the icing on our cake. We can decorate it anyway we wish, but the true measure of its goodness is in how the ingredients are put together. It is the cake and not the icing that makes it (and most especially you) amazing. So how will you reconcile your pretty?